How often have you had to make conversations with new people? How often have you felt nervous and apprehensive while doing so? Well, there is a term for describing this condition; it is called being ‘Socially Awkward’. Yes it is a fancier term used to describe the shyness or anxiety one experiences when interacting with new people or making friends.
Being “Socially Awkward” is a growing phenomenon, which many of us face at some point in our lives. It is a very human characteristic that innumerable people struggle with. It depends on a variety of factors, such as personality, self-confidence, nature etc. However, sometimes-even people who are more of an extrovert go through being “socially awkward”. But the question is that can it be overcome? Oh well, yes!
Why do people feel socially awkward? Listed below are 5 most common reason people give for being socially awkward.
- They are not confident about themselves
- They are afraid that they might not be able to interest the other person.
- They think too much about how other people might perceive them and what opinion will they form.
- They find it difficult to approach people and start a conversation
- They don’t know what to talk about.
If you feel all these things then you are socially awkward, which might be an issue with a visible negative impact on your life. If you always tend to feel nervous, anxious, depressed or sad when you are around other people then it is extremely important for you to find ways to lessen your social anxiety. Certain techniques that can help you overcome social awkwardness are:
Develop your social confidence. To a very large extent, social awkwardness is produced by shyness and anxiety in social settings. When you’re anxious, you can’t think straight, you stumble, bumble and fumble around, and thus you embarrass yourself. Work on improving your social confidence, and I promise you that most of it will take care of itself.
Learn the basic social norms. The basic principles of social interactions can be learned from books, courses or socially savvy people. Knowing them and applying them will aid you adjust your social behaviour to the situation. However, beyond the basic principles, everything else can only be learned through experience. No other person can tell you exactly what to do and say during a social interaction.
Gain lots of experience interacting with others. Meet new people, make conversation, experiment, notice the results and fine-tune your behaviour accordingly.
In time, this real-life social experience will transform you from socially awkward to socially intelligent. And of course, a huge part of the nerve to do all this socialising comes, again, from developing your social confidence.